Post by masders on Feb 15, 2024 6:05:31 GMT -6
Divorce occurs between adults, but the loss of a marriage can have profound effects on children. Help your child maintain a strong relationship and maintain love for the other parent, as the support of both parents is the best and safest way for your child to accept the challenges of divorce. Dr. Aneta Demirxhieva, pediatrician, gives you some tips to help your child: How should you break the news? The best thing is for both parents to break the news together, in an honest and simple way. You can say: Mom and Dad have some problems and that's why we think and believe that the best thing is to start on our own. Be sure your child understands that the separation is between adults.
You must constantly repeat to your child that he is not the cause of the separation, and that both parents will love him in the same way in the future, that the relationship Denmark Email List and love of both parents towards the child will never change. Also, regarding the divorce, you should also inform the child's teachers, as they can follow the child's behavior, they will inform you about it and in this way you will be able to react in time if the child has problems or begins to behave in an unusual way. You have to be prepared for different reactions At first, after you have given him the news, the child is interested to know if something will change. Where will he live, if he will go to another school, who will send him to sports or the activity he is currently involved in. Try as much as possible to maintain the child's daily routine, or create a new routine as soon as possible. Thus the child is waiting for what will happen and in this way feels more secure.
But soon you will start with the realization of the divorce. Young children reflect stress with changes in behavior, such as urinating at night, rebellion (anger), opposition to parents, school, friends. Help the child to express his feelings in words and to share them with the closest people. Older children may react to separation with a mixture of feelings such as anger, sadness, worry or relief. The child may be depressed, withdrawn, angry, hold a grudge. Regardless of the symptoms, you should encourage your child to talk to you and tell you what he is feeling. Remember: regardless of the difficulties you face, you should keep children away from your problems. Respect your child's relationship with the other parent. You must always adhere to these rules: Don't talk bad about your partner in front of your child Do not force your child to support one side or the other Do not use your child as a means of communication with your partner Never fight in front of the child Do not use the child to hurt your partner If you find things difficult, counseling can help After the divorce you may feel hurt, disappointed and look to your child for comfort, but you should know that this is not the child's role.
You must constantly repeat to your child that he is not the cause of the separation, and that both parents will love him in the same way in the future, that the relationship Denmark Email List and love of both parents towards the child will never change. Also, regarding the divorce, you should also inform the child's teachers, as they can follow the child's behavior, they will inform you about it and in this way you will be able to react in time if the child has problems or begins to behave in an unusual way. You have to be prepared for different reactions At first, after you have given him the news, the child is interested to know if something will change. Where will he live, if he will go to another school, who will send him to sports or the activity he is currently involved in. Try as much as possible to maintain the child's daily routine, or create a new routine as soon as possible. Thus the child is waiting for what will happen and in this way feels more secure.
But soon you will start with the realization of the divorce. Young children reflect stress with changes in behavior, such as urinating at night, rebellion (anger), opposition to parents, school, friends. Help the child to express his feelings in words and to share them with the closest people. Older children may react to separation with a mixture of feelings such as anger, sadness, worry or relief. The child may be depressed, withdrawn, angry, hold a grudge. Regardless of the symptoms, you should encourage your child to talk to you and tell you what he is feeling. Remember: regardless of the difficulties you face, you should keep children away from your problems. Respect your child's relationship with the other parent. You must always adhere to these rules: Don't talk bad about your partner in front of your child Do not force your child to support one side or the other Do not use your child as a means of communication with your partner Never fight in front of the child Do not use the child to hurt your partner If you find things difficult, counseling can help After the divorce you may feel hurt, disappointed and look to your child for comfort, but you should know that this is not the child's role.